Dealing with your failure to have children
Like most people, you may feel saddened and depressed about your inability to have children. There is harder anything that you can do, but you’ll have to learn how to accept your default and learn how to live with it. Keep in mind that just because you are unable to carry a child or conceive a child, you’ll still have many other options. Instead of thinking about your inability, you may want to start thinking about what you can do in order to have a child.
This is something that you should take some time to grieve over. Children are a big part how people see their future. Often having the white picket fence with two or more children is the ideal marriage. It’s not reality for many. This is something that you need to sit down and have a good cry over. The sooner you tell your mate the better too. If you find that your mate or lover doesn’t want to be with you over something like this, then they are not your true love. You’ll also want to consider that there are many options left for you to try, before giving up on children all together.
When it comes to dealing with your failure to have children, you may want to sit down and come to terms with it, but then you will also want to jump back into your life by being even closer to your nieces and nephews. Take this as a time to take a step back from baby making time to just deciding what options are best for you. It’s often important that you take on more responsibility and be around children more, so that you make the decision of pushing forward. If you adopt or push forward with other options you may not have the nine months to get use to the idea of a child, you may have plenty of time to wait for the child adoption to go through or for the child to arrive through private options. The thing about the other options is that they can be very expensive. You don’t want to go through all the trouble and then change your mind.
As for some of the other options, you may want to consult a lawyer to see what you can do to have a child. Often an agreement is set up where a woman will carry the child. Often, the problem is that the woman is unable to carry a child through lack of development. This could be an option. Also, if it’s the man who is unable to conceive, then you may want to think about artificial insemination. Then there is the option to adopt. You don’t need a lawyer to help you with artificial insemination, but you do need a doctor write the contracts for private adoption or hiring a woman to carry the child or donate eggs. You do need a lawyer to help represent you through private adoption and an adoption agency will often offer you legal representation to help you get your child.
Keep in mind that all the options that are available to you will take some time and also it will take some money. You’ll be investing everything you go inside you, emotionally. If you have recently miscarried or just found that children are not possible, then you may want to take some time to think about adoption. This is not something that you have to consider right away. You may even want to open your home up to foster children for a little bit in order to have the joy of children in your life, but also with foster children you don’t have to put so much emotion into the process, because this is only a temporary situation.